Three Years Divorced — and Still Not Free

The sixth day of court was scheduled for this past Wednesday. Six. Let that sink in.

But instead of facing it head-on (again), I woke up to find out the hearing was canceled — supposedly because his lawyer was sick. This was the second continuance they’ve requested. The first? They claimed the attorney had already booked a flight… but let’s be real. That court date just happened to fall the day before my ex married the woman he had an affair with. You do the math.

This isn’t just about delays. This is dragging out a process that should’ve been over long ago. This court case has been ongoing for over a year. Why? Because he’s accusing me of contempt — for not getting bills switched into my name fast enough… and for parental alienation.

Here’s the kicker: our children are 19 and almost 22.

You’d think it would be over by now. That I could breathe, heal, and move forward. But no — instead, I’m facing the possibility of being held responsible for his legal fees, which his attorney claims have reached over $70,000. And guess who they expect to pay it?

Fast forward to just two days after his “too sick to attend court” excuse. I was having lunch near where I work — right next to a courthouse — and who do I see?

His lawyer. Laughing. Bouncing. Smiling. Chatting it up like he didn’t just cause another delay in a legal process that has held me hostage for far too long. He looked directly at me and the look on his face said it all — he knew he’d been caught.

The anger I feel is beyond words. Not just because of him, or his lawyer, or the manipulative games they continue to play — but because the system allows it. Because three years after my divorce, I’m still being pulled into the chaos, still paying the price, still fighting for peace.

To anyone who thinks leaving a toxic person means it’s over — I wish it were that simple.

But here’s what I know:
I might still be in court. I might still be exhausted.
But I am not who I was three years ago. And I refuse to let them break me now.