About

Hi, I’m Conner Love — and for a long time, I believed that if I could just be good enough, perfect enough, I’d finally be loved the way I deserved.

I spent 23 years in a relationship that slowly broke me apart — not with fists, but with words, control, manipulation, and silence. The kind of abuse that doesn’t leave visible scars, but leaves you questioning your worth, your identity, and your sanity.

I was constantly walking on eggshells, trying to please someone who made it clear that I would never be enough. Someone who once told me — with a straight face — that he deserved a “trophy wife.” Someone who would look good by his side and compliment him, because he had aged well. That I wasn’t it. He wanted a perfect Barbie on his arm, big boobs and a tiny waist…something I would never be.

That moment stuck with me. Not because it was the worst thing he said, but because it confirmed what I already feared: that I was being measured against a version of perfection I could never reach. And I almost died trying.

But here’s what I know now:
I was NEVER meant to BE PERFECT. I was born to be real, whole, and FREE. God Made Me Beautifully Me.

Never Be Perfect was born from the ashes of that toxic relationship — from the years I spent losing and then finally reclaiming my voice. It’s a space for every woman who’s been emotionally manipulated, gaslit, used, discarded, or made to feel like her feelings were “too much.”

This blog isn’t polished and filtered — it’s raw, honest, and healing out loud.
Here, we name the abuse. We validate the pain. We break the shame.
And we begin again — together.

Whether you’re in the middle of the mess or clawing your way out, you’re not alone. Your story matters. Your healing is holy. And you don’t have to pretend to have it all together to be worthy of love.

You don’t have to be perfect. You just have to show up.
And I’m so glad you did.

With Love,
Conner