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I’d Rather Be Beaten
I’d rather be beaten. I know that must sound like the craziest statement ever, but hear me out. When people hear the word abuse, they expect to see bruises, cuts, swollen places, broken bones, anything that is VISIBLE. Abuse is not always VISIBLE. Sometimes, abuse comes in the form of mental, emotional, and psychological abuse. When this type of abuse occurs, it isn’t always obvious to others, or even the victim, what is happening. The destruction that occurs manifests in the form of sadness, depression, anxiety, craziness, lashing out, drastic mood swings, chronic fatigue, depleted immunity, weight gain or loss, isolation, memory loss, brain fog…the list goes on and on. It took…
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Holidays + Narcissists
We had a wonderful, uneventful Christmas this year. The kids and I celebrated the holiday with family, friends, and significant others. This year, the kids chose not to celebrate Christmas with their father. After almost a year of not speaking to or responding to his texts, they decided that neither wanted to be around him and wouldn’t see him for Christmas. At Midnight, their father messaged them Merry Christmas. Then, he never once reached out to them the entire day. He celebrated with his AP and family and pretty much pretended they didn’t exist, as has become standard with him. My thing is, as the child, it is their…
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Continue
There are still days that I question why I’ve had to endure everything that I have. Why was I abused for as long as I was before finally seeking and finding freedom? Why am I still not totally free of the monster, my ex? Why do I still have to deal with so many things, feeling like I can’t catch a break? Ever. And why are the burdens and stresses around me so heavy sometimes that I feel that I can’t breathe? And then, I will see a post, quote, or something that reminds me. I wasn’t put through what I was because I’m less of a person. I don’t…
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Control
I assumed that after divorce, the control and manipulation and toxicity with my ex would end. I think the important thing I want to share with those who may be in mentally, emotionally, and psychologically abusive situations is that you must go no contact. Now, we have two children, 17 and 20. I have 4 months left of having to share certain info regarding our 17 year old. However, I have him blocked on everything. I have told him to only reach out if there is an emergency. The kids live with me and honestly, there is no reason for him to contact me. He is desperate for the control…
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No Trophy Wife
Trophy Wife is a term that is used frequently in today’s society. But are you aware of what the definition of a Trophy Wife is? Essentially a Trophy Wife is a piece of “arm candy” to make some old man “look good”. They are typically unintelligent, gold diggers whose sole purpose is to hype their man. My spouse of 22 years told me he deserved to have a Trophy Wife by his side, (of course he had multiple affairs along the way, always looking for the next best thing). He said he needed someone that complimented him and how well he had aged. {I’m sure you’re thinking…what?! But yes,…
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Emotional Vampires
Let's discuss the long-term effects of hanging out with these emotional vamps. Think emotional exhaustion, like your emotional battery just hit rock bottom.
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If Only I’d Known A Journal Could Hold So Much Power + Wisdom
I wish I had known 23 years ago, the power that a journal could have in helping me understand what was being done to me.
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Zero Empathy + Emotional Reasoning
Narcissists exhibit a notable deficiency in their ability to empathize with others. Their self-absorption prevents them from fully understanding and grasping the emotions and experiences of those around them. In interactions, they may appear oblivious to the emotional state of others, or they might adapt their responses to fit what they believe the other person wants to hear, rather than responding genuinely. Their worldview revolves around an expectation that others should think and feel in alignment with their own perspectives, often showing little concern for the genuine emotions of others. Moreover, the lack of remorse and guilt is a common trait observed in narcissists. Attempting to reason with a narcissist…
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Why Are Narcissists Masters at Manipulation
Narcissists are individuals who have an inflated sense of self-importance, a constant need for admiration and a lack of empathy for others. They are often charming and charismatic, drawing people to them like a magnet. However, underneath their attractive exterior is a manipulative and controlling personality that can be very dangerous to those who get too close. If you have ever been involved with a narcissist, you know how skilled they are at deception and manipulation. This blog post will explore why narcissists are masters at manipulation and how you can protect yourself from their toxic behavior 1. They Have An Inflated Sense Of Self Narcissists have an exaggerated sense…
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Deer in Headlights
Don't be a Deer In Headlights. When you see red flags blazing, you need to RUN!
