• the facade

    Zero Empathy + Emotional Reasoning

    Narcissists exhibit a notable deficiency in their ability to empathize with others. Their self-absorption prevents them from fully understanding and grasping the emotions and experiences of those around them. In interactions, they may appear oblivious to the emotional state of others, or they might adapt their responses to fit what they believe the other person wants to hear, rather than responding genuinely. Their worldview revolves around an expectation that others should think and feel in alignment with their own perspectives, often showing little concern for the genuine emotions of others. Moreover, the lack of remorse and guilt is a common trait observed in narcissists. Attempting to reason with a narcissist…

  • Little Puppet Trophy Wife

    The Narcissist and His Trophy Wife

    In the realm of narcissism, the desire for a trophy wife is a prevailing theme, where individuals seek partners who epitomize societal ideals of beauty, success, and status. This article delves into the underlying motivations behind why a narcissist may feel the need to pursue a trophy wife, exploring the psychological factors that drive this quest for validation and external admiration. Narcissistic Supply:  Narcissists thrive on attention, admiration, and validation from others. A trophy wife becomes an essential source of narcissistic supply, serving as a constant reminder of the narcissist’s perceived superiority and desirability. The presence of a partner who embodies societal beauty standards enhances the narcissist’s self-image and fuels…

  • Gaslighting

    Effects of Gaslighting

    Gaslighting is a form of emotional abuse that involves manipulating someone into doubting their own perception of reality. It is a tactic commonly used by narcissistic psychopaths to maintain power and control over their victims. The effects of gaslighting can be devastating and long-lasting, often leading to a range of physical, emotional, and psychological consequences. Here are some of the ways that gaslighting by a narcissistic psychopath can affect a victim: Loss of Self-ConfidenceGaslighting can cause a victim to doubt their own judgment, memory, and perception of reality. The abuser may repeatedly tell the victim that they are wrong or crazy, causing them to lose confidence in their own abilities…

  • Rocked Me Like a Hurricane

    Like a Hurricane

    Narcissism, much like a hurricane, possesses a captivating yet treacherous allure. At first, it may seem like calm weather, with the narcissist’s charm and charisma drawing others closer. But just as a hurricane’s winds gradually intensify, so does the narcissist’s self-centeredness and grandiosity. Like a powerful storm, their need for control and validation sweeps through relationships, leaving a trail of emotional destruction in its wake. Just as a hurricane’s eye deceives with a deceptive calm, narcissists create a façade of false perfection, concealing their true intentions and manipulative tactics. And when the storm finally subsides, its aftermath can be hauntingly reminiscent of the aftermath of narcissistic abuse—a landscape of shattered…

  • Nothing But Prey

    Narcissistic abuse can have profound and long-lasting effects on the preys’ well-being. One of the key impacts is the erosion of self-esteem and self-worth. The constant criticism, belittlement, and devaluation inflicted by narcissistic abusers can leave victims feeling unworthy, inadequate, and powerless. Additionally, the prey often experience emotional trauma, including anxiety, depression, and feelings of emptiness. The manipulative tactics employed by narcissists, such as gaslighting and manipulation, lead victims to question their own reality, resulting in confusion and self-doubt. Narcissistic abuse also isolates the prey from support systems, causing social alienation and a sense of loneliness. The long-term effects of narcissistic abuse can include difficulties in trusting others, forming healthy…

  • You Are Not The “New” Me

     It has taken me such a long time to regain some semblance of who I am.  I love myself.  I love the person I have become coming out of such a horrific situation.  I literally lost half of my life with an abusive narcissistic psychopath.  He brought me to my absoulte lowest and while I lay there suffering…he allowed his affair partner to kick me repeatedly with details of their 4+ year affair.  She shared screenshots of snapchat messages between them, places they f*cked, how they’d be f*cking while I’d be messaging him wondering why he was so late coming home.  How she videoed herself making out with her roomate…

  • Lashing Out

    Narcissistic Baiting…Who Knew This Was a Thing

    Raise your hand if you’ve never heard of Narcissistic Baiting.  Okay.  My hand is up too.  While I experienced this, pretty much daily, I had NO IDEA there was a name for it and that this very thing happened to other people.  It blows my mind every time I learn that I am not alone in what I went through.  The trauma, abuse, manipulation, gaslighting, and what is apparently called, Narcissistic Baiting.  Narcissistic Baiting is when the narcissist instigates you.  It’s when they do something that they know is going to trigger a response.  You have become so frustrated with all of the lies and manipulation and constantly being told…